A man who was acting as the best man during his friend’s wedding, has ended up ruining the occasion as he attempted to do something romantic.
There’s a time and a place to propose to your partner. During your best friend’s wedding ceremony is certainly not that time.
This nightmare scenario is exactly what happened to a poor couple who wrote into Slate’s advice column, Dear Prudence.
“My husband and I started dating, got pregnant, had a child, moved in together, bought a house and got a dog in that order,” the anonymous woman’s letter began.
“Our friends and family have asked us for years why we weren’t married yet. We always pushed it off to build better lives.
“We’ve done really well for ourselves and finally reached a point where we could afford a huge blowout wedding to celebrate our lives with everyone we know and love. My husband’s best friend, ‘John’, was the best man/officiant.
“The setting was beautiful, everyone seemed happy, our families were overjoyed. My mum may have used the phrase ‘Hallelujah’ a few dozen times. The entire atmosphere felt moving.
“So moving in fact, that John stopped mid-ceremony to propose to his longtime girlfriend, ‘Jane’, and reveal her pregnancy.”
Yep, the best man of the wedding stopped the ceremony mid way through to propose to his girlfriend and tell the entire room she was pregnant.
And there’s more: “I couldn’t even hear the vows my husband wrote or the rest of the ceremony over the noise of Jane’s happy sobs, her very surprised family who were also guests and people seated nearby congratulating her.
“Even the videographer cut to her frequently during the ceremony and you can’t hear anything over the chatter. When John gave his toast, he apologised for being caught up in the moment and then proceeded to talk about his and Jane’s future with nary a mention of us.
“John even went out of his way to ask the band for a special dance for just him and Jane on the dance floor.
“I’ve never been an attention hog, and I wouldn’t even have minded if he’d proposed after the ceremony, but weeks later I am still seething.”
As we would be. The new bride said he husband hasn’t spoken to John since the wedding but said their mutual friends think they should get over it.
She concluded: “My husband has joked that he’ll resume his friendship when John and Jane give him a $40,000 check for ‘their half of the wedding’.”
Screenshots of the letter have been shared on Twitter and retweeted over 6,000 times – and Twitter has reacted accordingly.
“Oh hell naw [sic],” one user wrote. “They need to have a revenge baby and announce it at their wedding. Be petty af [sic]. And then end the friendship.”
“I’m hiring a dozen drag queens to strut up the aisle during their ceremony lip-syncing You’re So Vain,” another added.
Basically the vibe was, let’s ruin there wedding and be done with it: “I’d act like everything is all good until their wedding. Arrive in a wedding dress, vomit on their cake, and knock over the wedding gifts.”
Note to anyone wanting to propose: please have the sense not to do it during a wedding.